Understanding the concept of "monkey branching" in women's dating behavior, where they leave one relationship for another with better resources or status already lined up, can help men mitigate the pain and approach dating with a corporate frame of mind
Questions to inspire discussion
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Why do individuals prioritize money in hiring negotiations?
—Individuals prioritize money in hiring negotiations to receive fair compensation for their time and skills, similar to how companies prioritize profit.
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How can individuals double their salary in a company?
—Individuals can double their salary in a company by negotiating a new anchor at a different company, as staying loyal to a company only results in proportional raises.
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Who engages in monkey branching behavior more commonly in dating?
—Women engage in monkey branching behavior more commonly in dating, as it allows them to negotiate a more competitive "salary" with a confirmed bidder for their "labor."
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Why is monkey branching behavior more prevalent in women than men?
—Monkey branching behavior is more prevalent in women than men because demonstrated proof of competence and ability in men is more attractive to women, while demonstrated proof of sexual availability and experience in women is to men.
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How should men approach monkey branching behavior in dating?
—Men shouldn't take monkey branching behavior personally and should consider it a gift, approaching dating with a corporate frame of mind to mitigate the pain.
Key Insights
- 🐒 Women monkey branch because "they are always looking for the best possible mate" and "they are always looking for the next best thing."
- 💼 Women's mating behavior can be understood through a corporate frame of mind, where lateral moves provide bigger jumps in compensation than promotions within the same company.
- 💼 The courtship phase of a relationship is like an extended hiring process where two people negotiate what they're willing to give up for what they expect to receive.
- 💰 Women monkey branch because they want to increase their income and will go with the organization that pays them the most.
- 💰 Companies poach employees because it's cheaper in the long run than developing their own talent.
- 💔 Women monkey branch more commonly than men because churning through short-term relationships is much more expensive for women than it is for men.
Clips
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00:00 🔍 Women monkey branch by leaving one relationship and quickly entering into another, with the second relationship already lined up before ending the first, and understanding this phenomenon can help men mitigate the pain.
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01:07 👩💼 Women treat men like jobs, and understanding female mating and dating behavior requires a corporate frame of mind, where the biggest jumps in compensation occur when you lateral to a different company, and the same is true in dating due to rational principles.
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01:59 👩💼 The courtship phase of a relationship is like an extended hiring process where two people negotiate what they're willing to give up for what they expect to receive, and just like in business, negotiating too explicitly is gauche.
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03:32 💼 Companies shame employees for prioritizing money during hiring negotiations, but staying loyal only results in proportional raises, so the only way to double your salary is to negotiate a new anchor at a different company.
- During hiring negotiations, individuals prioritize the bottom line and seek the highest compensation for their time, and companies may shame employees for prioritizing money to functionally receive the same amount of labor for a smaller expenditure of money, increasing their profit.
- Staying loyal to a company will only result in proportional raises, and the only way to double your salary is to negotiate a new anchor at a different company.
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05:07 💬 Big bumps in title and lifestyle generally don't happen internally, they happen laterally, and women "monkey branch" in relationships to retain someone who has received a better offer elsewhere.
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06:21 💼 Poaching employees is cheaper for companies in the long run because they have already been trained and developed, reducing the risk of investing in unproven talent and decreasing the likelihood of future lateral movements.
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07:52 🐒 Women monkey branch in dating because it's like quitting a job before having another opportunity lined up, allowing them to negotiate a more competitive "salary" with a confirmed bidder for their "labor," and demonstrated proof of competence and ability in men is more attractive to women than demonstrated proof of sexual availability and experience in women is to men.
- Women monkey branch more commonly than men in dating because churning through short-term relationships is more expensive for women and demonstrated proof of competence and ability in men is more attractive to women than demonstrated proof of sexual availability and experience in women is to men.
- Women engage in monkey branching behavior in dating because it's like quitting a job before having another opportunity lined up, and they can negotiate a more competitive "salary" with a confirmed bidder for their "labor," which is why it's more prevalent in women than men, but men shouldn't take it personally and should consider it a gift.
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10:27 🐒 Women "monkey branch" in mating behavior by leaving one partner for another who offers better resources or status.
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