Women should apologize for their bad behavior because it earns respect from men and helps to resolve conflicts effectively.
Questions to inspire discussion
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Why should women apologize for their bad behavior?
—Women should apologize for their bad behavior because it earns respect from men and helps to resolve conflicts effectively.
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What did the woman do instead of apologizing for her bad behavior?
—Instead of apologizing, the woman offered sex as a way to make up for her bad behavior.
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Why should women consider apologizing when appropriate?
—Women should consider apologizing when appropriate because men respect people who take responsibility for themselves.
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How can apologizing distinguish a woman in a positive manner?
—Apologizing can distinguish a woman in a positive manner in the mind of a man because men rarely receive apologies from women.
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What can women gain by apologizing for their bad behavior?
—By apologizing for their bad behavior, women can earn respect from men and effectively resolve conflicts.
Key insights
- 😬 Women find it very hard to apologize for bad behavior, which can be detrimental to relationships and personal growth.
- 🙅♀️ Women's struggle to apologize may stem from societal expectations and gender norms.
- 😡 The problem for men is the identified behavior, while for women, the problem is that the man is angry and upset.
- 🤔 There is a belief that in order for a breach of contract to be actionable, harm must be proven as a consequence of the breach.
- 😶 Women often use emotional coping strategies, such as cheering up or making a favorite meal, to reduce a man's anger or upset in relationships instead of apologizing and being held accountable.
- 😳 Women's emotional reactions can sometimes escalate quickly, catching others off guard.
- 😳 The speaker lost respect for someone who offered sex as a peace offering instead of apologizing for their bad behavior.
Timestamped Summary
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00:00 👩⚕️ Women find it difficult to apologize for bad behavior, which is unfortunate because apologizing is an effective way to resolve conflicts and is valued more by men.
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01:03 👩🦰 Women can earn respect and raise their estimation by admitting wrongdoing when appropriate, but it is difficult for them to apologize.
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01:42 📺 Women struggle to apologize because men and women have different perspectives on what constitutes a problem.
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02:22 😡 The problem is that men believe women should apologize for their behavior when the real issue is the man's anger and upset.
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02:58 💡 The harm and upset caused by a breach of contract is what is considered the foul in this perspective.
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03:23 😕 The problem of women not apologizing can be solved by changing the man's emotional response through various coping strategies such as cheering him up, making his favorite meal, sending a funny meme, or waiting for the situation to calm down.
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04:13 😮 Woman I was dating misunderstood something I said, quickly escalated into crying, criticism, and withdrawal, surprising me.
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04:33 🚺 Women should apologize when necessary because it earns respect from men who rarely receive apologies from women, distinguishing oneself positively in their eyes.
- She didn't apologize for her bad behavior, instead offering sex as a way to make up for it, which caused the speaker to lose respect for her.
- Women should consider apologizing when appropriate because men respect people who take responsibility for themselves, and men rarely receive apologies from women, so doing so can distinguish oneself in a positive manner in the mind of a man.
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