Men need to be more decisive and take initiative in dating, and women's perception of men may be skewed by the behavior of a proportion of guys
Questions to inspire discussion
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What should men do to be more successful in dating?
—Men should be more decisive and take initiative in dating, showing intent and value rather than engaging in prolonged texting and indecisiveness.
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What is a good option for a date location?
—Sitting at the bar allows for a more natural and less awkward interaction, creating a relaxed and casual atmosphere for conversation and attraction to develop.
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How can social interactions be made more casual?
—Lowering the stakes and making social interactions more casual can lead to better connections and friendships, and this concept can also apply to online dating profiles.
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What is important in dating profiles?
—Showing, not telling, is important in dating profiles, as simply listing qualities becomes generic and uninteresting.
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What should men focus on in dating?
—Men should let their intentions be known through their actions and not focus on past frustrations in dating.
Key insights
- 🤔 Women's perception of men may be skewed by the behavior of a proportion of guys, leading them to believe there are no decent men out there.
- 💬 Men need to be more decisive and take initiative in dating, instead of playing games and texting back and forth for weeks.
- 👫 Women's safety is a big concern, so being somewhere they feel safe is important for a date.
- 🤔 "Show don't tell is an important rule in dating profiles."
- 🔥 The frustration of casual hookups can affect how women express their intentions in dating.
- 🤔 The way we present ourselves on dating profiles reveals a lot about our mindset and how lightly we take our own baggage.
Timestamped Summary
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00:00 🚹 Many men on dating apps are only looking for sex, leading to misaligned expectations and bad behavior from guys hiding behind the screen.
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01:21 🚺 Some women think men are trash because of the behavior they witness from a proportion of guys, leading to a tarnished view of men.
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02:40 🚹 Men need to be more decisive and take initiative in dating, showing intent and value, rather than engaging in prolonged texting and indecisiveness, and the speaker prefers dates where you can sit facing out into the world and turn to each other when you want to talk.
- Men need to be more decisive and take initiative in dating, showing intent and value, rather than engaging in prolonged texting and indecisiveness.
- The speaker prefers dates where you can sit facing out into the world and turn to each other when you want to talk, and someone in the crowd suggested sushi as a good option.
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04:57 👫 Prioritize women's safety, build rapport and comfort on a date, and don't be afraid to have a short date.
- Sitting at the bar allows for a more natural and less awkward interaction, as it creates a more relaxed and casual atmosphere for conversation and attraction to develop.
- A good date involves building rapport and comfort, walking is a good option, prioritize women's safety, and don't be afraid to have a short date.
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06:31 👫 Lowering stakes and casual interactions can lead to better connections, and showing, not telling, is important in dating profiles.
- Lowering the stakes and making social interactions more casual can lead to better connections and friendships, and this concept can also apply to online dating profiles.
- Showing, not telling, is important in dating profiles, as simply listing qualities becomes generic and uninteresting.
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08:14 🔑 Don't focus on past frustrations in dating, let your intentions be known through your actions, and use real estate in your dating profile to show personality.
- Real estate is a way to show personality in a dating profile, as seen in an example of a woman expressing her disappointment about her future kids not experiencing Blockbuster Video.
- Don't need to explicitly state your intentions, let them be known through your actions and don't focus on past frustrations in dating.
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10:06 🔑 Women struggle to communicate their status as single mothers in a flirtatious way, leading them to see men as "baggage" and revealing their mindset and baggage through dating profiles.
- The speaker used to send women out to practice dating skills, but stopped due to the large number of participants, and shared an example of a single mom feeling burdened by communicating her status.
- Women often see men as "baggage" and struggle to communicate their status as single mothers in a flirtatious way, revealing a lot about their mindset and baggage through dating profiles.
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