Why Guys Don't Make The First Move Anymore

Chris Willamson, Relationships -

Why Guys Don't Make The First Move Anymore

Social interactions and dating dynamics have been influenced by the internet and changing social norms, leading to a lack of social awareness and a reluctance to make the first move 

Questions to inspire discussion 

  • How has the internet influenced social interactions and dating dynamics?

    The internet has changed the way people communicate and connect, leading to a shift in social norms and dating behaviors.

  • What is the impact of changing social norms on social awareness?

    Changing social norms have led to a lack of social awareness as people navigate new expectations and boundaries in social interactions.

  • Why are people reluctant to make the first move in dating?

    People may be hesitant to make the first move due to a fear of rejection, uncertainty about social cues, and a lack of confidence in their social skills.

  • How can individuals improve their social awareness in the digital age?

    Individuals can improve their social awareness by actively listening, seeking feedback, and being mindful of their communication and behavior in social interactions.

  • What are some strategies for overcoming reluctance to make the first move in dating?

    Strategies for overcoming reluctance to make the first move include building confidence, practicing assertiveness, and being open to rejection as a learning experience.

Key Insights

  • 😬 86% of women want a man to make the first move, but only 14% of them are actually willing to do it themselves.
  • 🗣️ It's unreasonable for anyone to have a problem with just treating people like people and saying something nice to them.
  • 👀 The internet's influence on defining harassment boundaries has created a new standard for social interactions.
  • 🤔 Lack of social awareness may be contributing to people's inability to pick up on cues and make the first move.
  • 🤔 "People are more clumsy socially than they've ever been before and the world is more sensitive to their clumsiness."

 

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Clips 

  • 00:00 🚹 Men are afraid to make the first move because they fear being seen as creepy, while women want men to make the first move but are unlikely to do it themselves.
    • 00:49 🚺 Guys don't make the first move anymore, and it's important for girls to realize that.
      • 01:14 🚹 Guys don't make the first move because they need clearer signals and attractive guys are less likely to be seen as harassing.
        • 01:56 🗣 Guys are hesitant to make the first move due to the cultural shift against catcalling, but approaching someone respectfully is effective and anyone who feels unsafe in that situation is being unreasonable.
          • 02:45 🚹 Guys are hesitant to make the first move due to fear of being labeled as creepy or harassing.
            • 03:37 💡 Guys who are more physically attractive are given more leeway in making the first move, but it's important to be smart about it.
              • 03:51 🤔 People are losing the ability to pick up on social cues and are becoming oblivious to others' discomfort, possibly due to spending too much time on social media, video games, and porn.
                • 04:36 🤷 Guys are less socially adept and more clumsy in flirting and making new friends, leading to fear of unintentionally crossing social boundaries in a sensitive world.

                   

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                  Duration 0:5:44

                  Publication Date: 2024-04-15T22:39:56Z

                  WatchUrl: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-DocBEs7qp0

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