50-50 relationships don't work because women often prefer unequal splits and end up assuming a greater share, leading to unsustainable and unfair dynamics
Questions to inspire discussion
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What is the key idea of the video?
—The key idea is that 50-50 relationships don't work because women often prefer unequal splits and end up assuming a greater share.
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What is the maximum level of equality most women are willing to accept in a relationship?
—Most women are willing to accept a 50-50 relationship as the maximum level of equality.
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What do men believe is the definition of fairness in relationships?
—Men believe that splitting expenses and responsibilities equally is the definition of fairness in relationships.
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Do men often end up assuming a greater share in relationships?
—Yes, men often end up assuming a greater share in relationships, despite their belief in equality.
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Why do 50-50 relationships between men and women not work?
—50-50 relationships don't work because there is a cost to relationships and finance is necessary for romance.
Key Insights
- 💔 The belief that relationships should be 50-50 doesn't work in practice for a whole host of reasons.
- 💔 A 70-30 split is considered the best arrangement by the speaker, indicating that a more unequal distribution of responsibilities is preferred in relationships.
- 💔 50-50 relationships between men and women don't work in practice because "there is no romance without Finance."
- 💁♀️ Women are more likely to be willing to compromise and settle for an 80-20 split, while men are more likely to prefer a 50-50 split in relationships.
- 💔 The objective equality or inequality of a transaction doesn't determine its sustainability, as it's the subjective feelings and perceptions that play a significant role in how fair it seems.
- 😕 Our perception of value is not based on the objective or inherent value of a product, but rather on the price points of similar transactions.
- 💔 "Equal doesn't feel Fair which is why it doesn't tend to work."
- 🤔 An unequal relationship that feels fair can be more sustainable than an equal relationship that feels unfair.
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Timestamped Summary
- 00:00 👩⚕️ 50-50 relationships don't work because the belief that relationships should be equal in giving and receiving doesn't hold true in practice, especially in sexual relationships.
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00:51 💁 Women generally prefer unequal splits in relationships where they benefit more financially, and are less likely to be satisfied with a 50-50 split.
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01:45 💔 50-50 relationships between men and women don't work because finance is necessary for romance and women often end up assuming a greater share.
- For most women, a 50-50 relationship is the maximum they are willing to accept, while men believe that splitting expenses and responsibilities equally is the definition of fairness, even though they often end up assuming a greater share.
- 50-50 relationships between men and women don't work because there is a cost to relationships and finance is necessary for romance.
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03:36 💔 Women are often willing to contribute equally in relationships, but they are outnumbered by men who prefer an unequal split, resulting in women giving more than men.
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04:18 💡 Equal distribution of resources may be fair, but it often feels unfair due to subjective feelings and market forces, leading to unsustainable relationships.
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05:38 😕 People feel bad when they buy something before a sale even though they were happy to pay the original price, because our perception of value is based on the price of similar transactions.
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06:18 🤷 Women generally find it difficult to accept a 50-50 relationship as fair, while men understand the practicality of it, leading to unequal emotional conditions and a preference for relationships with a power imbalance.
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07:13 💡 An unequal relationship that feels fair is more sustainable than an equal relationship that feels unfair, as long as privileges and responsibilities are balanced.
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