Dating and attraction are not fair, and men and women have different mating strategies, leading to unfair judgments based on physical appearance
Questions to inspire discussion
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Why do women shame each other for being fat?
—Women engage in intersexual competition and shame each other for being fat because being fat is not inherently desirable to men, so a woman would feel more offended if her partner cheated on her with a fat woman.
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Is it unfair for men to judge women based on their weight?
—The speaker believes that it is unfair for men to judge women based on their weight, but also acknowledges that everyone has physical preferences.
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Why are men who prefer overweight women seen as insecure?
—Men who prefer overweight women are seen as insecure, while it is considered unfair to judge a man by his height rather than a woman by her weight.
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Do men have fewer options in dating compared to women?
—Men have fewer options in dating, so women date who they want while men date who they can.
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What physical traits do women care about that are out of men's control?
—Women care about things that are out of men's control like height, and women need to accept that physical traits serve an evolutionary purpose and are pickier about looks than men.
Key Insights
- 🤔 "I wouldn't think it's fair. But we're we're IND dating. This fairness exists."
- 😡 "I'm not high value just because I'm overweight."
- 😔 The idea that women engage in intersexual competition and shame each other for being fat is a harsh reality that needs to be addressed.
- 🤔 It's much more unfair to judge a man by his height than to judge a woman by her weight.
- 🤔 "The majority of men probably prefer women with a healthy BMI and who are not overweight and obese."
- 🤔 Dating is not fair, attraction is not fair, men and women have different mating strategies.
- 🤔 "Dating is competition and everybody can't win, there's more women than men, every man is not desirable."
- 🤔 "A lot of the things that you guys care about when it comes to looks are totally out of men's control. For example height 100% out of men men's control and a lot of women here be sitting here wanting guy who's 6 feet plus okay."
#Relationships #BodyPositivity
Clips
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00:00 🤔 Men not wanting to date overweight women is unfair, as attraction is the number one factor and can't be changed.
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01:34 🤔 Men preferring slimmer women is not unfair, as it is just a preference based on cultural context and health.
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02:46 🤔 Women shame each other for being fat because it's not desirable to men, but the speaker believes it's unfair for men to judge women based on their weight.
- Women engage in intersexual competition and shame each other for being fat because being fat is not inherently desirable to men, so a woman would feel more offended if her partner cheated on her with a fat woman.
- The speaker believes that it is unfair for men to judge women based on their weight, but also acknowledges that everyone has physical preferences.
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04:25 🤔 Men who prefer overweight women are seen as insecure, while it is considered unfair to judge a man by his height rather than a woman by her weight, as men have fewer options in dating.
- Men who prefer overweight women are seen as insecure, while it is considered unfair to judge a man by his height rather than a woman by her weight.
- Men have fewer options in dating, so women date who they want while men date who they can.
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06:08 🤔 Men generally prefer women with a healthy BMI and most women prefer to date taller men, but it's valid for men to prioritize their own health and not want to date overweight women.
- Men generally prefer women with a healthy BMI and who are not overweight, and most women would prefer to date a guy who is taller than them.
- People criticize men for not wanting to date overweight women, but it's also valid for men to prioritize their own health and not want to enter a relationship with potential health issues.
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08:00 🤔 Women desire traits in men that they themselves do not possess, and dating and attraction are not fair.
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09:24 🤔 Dating is a competition and not everyone will find someone, so it's not fair and will never be fair.
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10:47 🤔 Women need to accept that physical traits serve an evolutionary purpose and are pickier about looks than men, often caring about things that are out of men's control like height, while weight is in women's control.
- Women need to accept that physical traits serve an evolutionary purpose and are pickier about looks than men, often caring about things that are out of men's control like height.
- Women judge men harshly on things out of their control, but men don't discriminate as much, and weight is in women's control.
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Duration: 0:12:35
Publication Date: 2024-07-14T10:44:54Z
WatchUrl: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eBjdz1fOD4g
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