The Impact of Woke Women on Relationships

Questions to inspire discussion 

• What is the negative impact of woke women on relationships?

  —Woke women's high expectations, rejection of traditional gender roles, and prioritization of productivity over embracing their feminine identity are causing problems in relationships and hindering their chances of finding happiness and fulfillment.

• What is the story about the "husband store" on Facebook?

  —The speaker discusses a story posted on Facebook about a store called the Husband Store where women can choose a husband, with each floor offering men with increasing value in terms of jobs, love for kids, and attractiveness.

• How do women's unrealistic expectations in relationships cause problems?

  —Women having high and unrealistic expectations in relationships is causing problems, and they should lower their expectations.

• What are the different needs of men and women in relationships?

  —Men have very few needs in a relationship, such as being nice, available, affectionate, appreciative, and interested in sex, while women have more complex expectations.

• How has the feminist narrative surrounding housework affected relationships?

  —The feminist narrative surrounding housework causes stress in relationships, as men often feel that their partners believe they do not do enough.

Key Insights

Clips

• 00:00 🔍 Woke women are criticized for having high and unrealistic expectations in relationships, as illustrated by a story about a woman who never finds the perfect man in a husband store, leading to the conclusion that women are impossible to please.
  • Suzanne Venker discusses the negative impact of woke women on relationships and marriage, sharing a story about the "husband store" on Facebook.
  • The speaker discusses a story that was posted on Facebook, but clarifies that she did not write it.
  • There is a store called the Husband Store where women can choose a husband, with each floor offering men with increasing value in terms of jobs, love for kids, and attractiveness.
  • Women are impossible to please, as evidenced by a story about a woman who keeps going up floors in a husband's store and never finds the perfect man, leading to the conclusion that women are impossible to please.
  • Women having high and unrealistic expectations in relationships is causing problems, and they should lower their expectations.
• 05:15 👩 ‍👨‍👧‍👦 Women's unrealistic expectations and a sense of entitlement are hindering their chances of finding successful relationships, while men have simpler needs, leading to a disconnect in power dynamics.
  • Women should not be discouraged from aiming high and having high expectations, despite the potential backlash and criticism they may face.
  • Women's unrealistic expectations in online dating, particularly among well-educated women over 50, are hindering their chances of finding a successful relationship.
  • Woke women have a sense of entitlement, denigrate men, and have unrealistic expectations, instead they should settle and have realistic expectations.
  • Men have very few needs in a relationship, such as being nice, available, affectionate, appreciative, and interested in sex, while women have more complex expectations.
  • Men and women have different needs in relationships, and there is a disconnect when women have long lists of expectations while men do not, which may be due to a shift in power dynamics.
  • Women gaining independence and the government's support has shifted the dynamics of relationships, and having a mindset that divorce is not an option can help maintain a relationship.
• 11:46 🔑 Woke women are changing the dynamics of relationships by rejecting traditional gender roles, causing confusion and frustration for both men and women.
  • Divorce has become a less dreadful option for many women due to the power they have in the divorce situation, which has changed the way people think about relationships and the effort they need to put into them.
  • Woke women, who believe in complete gender equality and interchangeable roles, are causing relationship problems by approaching partnerships as roommates rather than unique individuals with complementary skills.
  • Men need to become more emotionally available and talk about their feelings instead of relying on traditional male skills, but ironically, once they do, women become unhappy in the relationship.
  • Women who identify as "woke" are realizing that they don't actually want traditional gender roles in relationships, despite societal expectations, and are frustrated when their partners don't understand this.
• 15:41 🔑 Woke women prioritizing productivity over embracing their feminine identity of being loved and cared for is causing unhappiness and misery in relationships.
  • The feminist narrative surrounding housework causes stress in relationships, as men often feel that their partners believe they do not do enough.
  • Couples in America and Australia value the fact that women do less paid work and have the capacity to stay home with their children, which contributes to relationship satisfaction, but this perspective is not reflected in the media.
  • If you approach your relationship with a mindset of "his and hers" and measure your actions based on what your partner is doing, your marriage is unlikely to last.
  • Encouraging women to focus on discontent and prioritize their own worth based on productivity rather than embracing their genuine feminine identity of being loved, cared for, and taking care of their babies has led to unhappiness and misery in relationships.
• 20:10 🚺 Women prioritizing careers over relationships are missing out on happiness and fulfillment, while feminists manipulate issues and falsely claim women want more childcare to advance in their careers, leading to men doing more housework and women blaming their husbands for their chosen life.
  • Women who prioritize their careers over relationships and family life are going against their natural instincts and ultimately missing out on the happiness and fulfillment that comes from focusing on relationships, which is something men have always known.
  • The speaker argues that there is a lack of a happy middle ground in relationships due to the deliberate manipulation of issues by feminists, such as the false belief that all women want more child care to advance in their careers.
  • Men are doing three times the amount of housework and childcare than their fathers and grandfathers, and the real issue women face is that they have chosen a life that doesn't work, blaming their husbands for it.
• 23:10 📺 Woke women are blamed for killing relationships due to high expectations and a lack of understanding of gender differences, but it's important to recognize that individuals can adapt and learn different skills regardless of gender.
  • The speaker discusses an article they wrote called "The Reason" and its relevance to the topic at hand.
  • Modern marriages often fail due to high expectations and a lack of understanding that men and women think and behave differently.
  • Men and women have different strengths and abilities, such as men being better at focusing on one thing and women being better at multitasking, but it is important to recognize that individuals can adapt and learn different skills regardless of gender.
• 26:45 👩 ‍👨‍👧‍👦 Women taking control in relationships and not understanding men's needs is causing problems, leading to dissatisfaction and a lack of intergenerational knowledge on maintaining marriages.
  • To get the best out of your man, understand what motivates him and behave in a way that will make him want to do things, rather than expecting him to do the same without any effort on your part.
  • Women in relationships are increasingly taking control and making all the decisions, while men have different approaches to parenting and play that should be celebrated.
  • Men are being controlled by what is considered appropriate behavior from women, which is the main issue in the speaker's coaching business.
  • Women who expect their partners to fulfill all their needs without giving them space or appreciation will only receive negativity in return, and instead should focus on cultivating a positive attitude and behavior to inspire their partners to willingly meet their needs.
  • Married men who desire motorcycles are often prevented from getting them by their wives, leading to disappointment and a prevalence of middle-aged men on motorcycles in the online dating world.
  • Women's refusal to allow men the freedom and space they need in relationships is hindering their ability to have the husbands they desire, and the lack of intergenerational knowledge transfer on how to love and maintain a marriage is contributing to this issue.
• 32:24 📚 Many women in counseling neglect their partner's sexual needs, leading to relationship issues, and the speaker provides rare and valuable advice on relationships that challenges the politically correct language surrounding marriage counseling.
  • The speaker discusses how she teaches rare and valuable advice on relationships that many people have never heard before, and how other counselors are not saying the same things due to the harmful and politically correct language surrounding marriage counseling.
  • Coaching differs from counseling as it is based on personal experience and research, and the speaker's book on her own transformation in marriage has led to successful coaching, but finding resources for troubled marriages is challenging.
  • Many women in counseling don't believe they have an obligation to fulfill their partner's sexual needs, leading to relationship issues and ineffective counseling.
  • The speaker discusses the benefits of being able to find information about her online prior to working with her, unlike with an average counselor, and expresses gratitude for the conversation.

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