Giving ultimatums in relationships, especially for marriage, is not effective and can create conflict, as it prioritizes personal wants over love and can lead to a transactional approach to relationships
Questions to inspire discussion
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Why are men struggling with the ultimatum of marriage?
—Men feel pressured and compared to being in a situation where they are not attracted to the woman but want to have sex with her.
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Why do men become more aggressive in pursuing a sexual encounter?
—Men don't see any other value in the relationship, so they become more aggressive in pursuing a sexual encounter.
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Why do women become pushy for marriage?
—A woman's pushiness for marriage is a result of not getting what she wants from the relationship and not getting anything else to compensate for it.
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Why are people who appear indifferent to sex or marriage more likely to get what they want?
—People who appear indifferent to sex or marriage make the encounter feel safer for the other person, increasing their chances of getting what they want.
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Why is giving ultimatums in relationships not effective?
—Giving ultimatums in relationships prioritizes personal wants over love and can lead to a transactional approach, creating conflict.
Key Insights
- 💍 The pressure to get married can lead to emotional manipulation tactics and create difficulties in the relationship.
- 🤔 Without other forms of meaningful benefit from the relationship, men may not see a reason to stick around and deal with a woman.
- 💍 The push for marriage may stem from a lack of fulfillment in other aspects of the relationship, not just a desire for commitment.
- 💔 A woman who threatens to leave you if you don't marry her is functionally telling you that she wants things more than she wants to continue to be with you.
- 💼 A woman's ultimatum for marriage is seen as a business negotiation, not an emotional decision.
- 💰 If a man decides that a certain employee is better suited for a role as an independent contributor than as a corporate officer after all people don't become the CEO simply due to seniority.
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Clips
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00:00 🔑 Women giving men ultimatums to get married is not effective and can create conflict, and the decision to get married is a complex one for men.
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01:08 🤔 Men struggle with the marriage ultimatum and become more aggressive in pursuing sex because they don't see value in the relationship.
- Men are struggling with the ultimatum of marriage and are compared to being in a situation where they are dealing with a woman they are not attracted to, but want to have sex with.
- Men become more aggressive in pursuing a sexual encounter with a woman because they don't see any other value in the relationship.
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03:01 👰 A woman's push for marriage is a rational decision based on the man's perception of the relationship.
- If you're not going to progress the relationship, I will move on because it's a rational decision based on the man's perception of the situation.
- A woman's pushiness for marriage is a result of not getting what she wants from the relationship, and if she's not getting anything else to compensate for it, she will become more pushy.
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05:20 👰 A woman who gives an ultimatum for marriage is prioritizing her wants over love, and the same goes for men being pushy in relationships.
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06:55 💼 Women who give ultimatums in relationships are approaching it as a business transaction, and both parties should consider the costs and benefits.
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08:25 🤔 A woman's career decisions and a man's promotion choices are not personal, just business, and appearing indifferent to sex or marriage can make it easier to get what you want.
- A woman's decision to switch companies for better pay and a man's decision to promote based on merit are not personal, just business.
- People who appear indifferent to sex or marriage are more likely to get what they want because it makes the encounter feel safer for the other person.
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Duration: 0:11:47
Publication Date: 2024-04-09T10:11:23Z
WatchUrl: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6wlA8McpZ7g
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