Rethinking Domestic Violence with Dr. Donald Dutton

Domestic violence is not solely a male-perpetrated issue, and addressing the generational aspects and power dynamics in relationships is crucial for improving treatment outcomes and understanding the true nature of domestic violence 

Questions to inspire discussion 

• What is the main focus of the video?

  —The video focuses on domestic violence, its non-gendered nature, and the importance of addressing power dynamics and generational aspects in relationships.

• What does Dr. Donald Dutton discuss in the video?

  —Dr. Donald Dutton discusses his background in domestic violence research, his work with police training, and the recognition of domestic violence by various organizations.

• What is the main controversy discussed in the video?

  —The main controversy discussed is the ideological research on domestic violence, which does not align with evidence-based research showing that domestic violence perpetration is not solely male-perpetrated against females.

• What is the speaker's stance on gendered violence?

  —The speaker believes that domestic violence is non-gendered and affects everyone, and it is important to provide help to those who need it.

• What is the speaker's opinion on the judicial system's approach to domestic violence cases?

  —The speaker discusses the need for more open-mindedness and resources in the judicial system regarding domestic violence cases, as well as the challenges faced by men in family court and the role of money in the legal system.

Key Insights

• 🔍 Dr. Donald Dutton's background in psychology and criminology led him to reevaluate police training and the handling of domestic disputes.
• 💡 Ideological research in domestic violence ignores important questions and only seeks to prove a political point, leading to biased and incomplete data.
• 👫 50% of domestic violence is found to be bilateral, with both men and women using equally violent actions, challenging the stereotype of domestic violence as solely male-perpetrated.
• 🧠 Empirical studies show that there are generational aspects to domestic violence, with learned behaviors and emotional regulation issues stemming from growing up in an abusive household.
• 🏠 Treating both partners in a domestic violence situation could improve treatment outcomes and help more victims come forward for help.
• 📊 Meta-analytic studies provide a comprehensive look at the state of the art knowledge on domestic violence, shedding light on the gender causation issue.
• 🌍 It's not gender, but gender times power that contributes to the main rates of incidents of perpetration.
• 📚 "I went through this thing with the fine-tooth comb and took it apart and published a paper on it showing how it was fallacious from start to finish and they took it down."

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Clips 

• 00:00 🔍 Dr. Donald Dutton discusses the seriousness of domestic violence, his background in research and police training, and the importance of recognizing and addressing the issue.
  • Dr. Donald Dutton discusses domestic violence and the importance of recognizing its seriousness in society.
  • Dr. Donald Dutton discusses his background in domestic violence research and how he got involved in the field, including his work with police training and the dissatisfaction officers felt in dealing with domestic disputes.
  • Developed a police training procedure for handling domestic disturbances that focused on police safety and analyzing the cause of the dispute for referral to social services, rather than arrest, but found it pointless without proper social services in place.
  • The speaker approached a family court judge to set up treatment groups for both wife and husband assault, and then conducted research on the participants, leading to high-profile speaking engagements.
  • Dr. Donald Dutton discusses the recognition of domestic violence by various organizations and the importance of addressing the issue.
• 05:56 🔍 Intimate partner violence is not solely male-perpetrated, with evidence showing that 50% is bilateral and 35% of the time the female is the main perpetrator, indicating a need to rethink the feminist view on domestic violence.
  • Intimate partner violence is a physical assault that occurs between two people in an intimate relationship, which can include emotional connections and does not necessarily require cohabitation.
  • Ideological research on domestic violence, which is based on a feminist view, does not ask important questions and does not align with evidence-based research that shows domestic violence perpetration is not solely male-perpetrated against females.
  • Surveys in the U.S. found that 50% of domestic violence is bilateral, with the remaining 50% showing that 35% of the time the female is the main perpetrator and the violence is more severe.
  • Men's reluctance to report domestic violence may be indicative of societal attitudes towards toxic masculinity, and the lack of discussion around toxic femininity suggests a prevailing stereotype in Canadian society.
  • Dr. Donald Dutton has written important works on domestic violence and is willing to take another run at answering a question.
• 11:56 🔍 Research shows that domestic violence is not gendered, with males reporting victimization at similar or higher rates than females, but prevailing stereotypes and police training lead to skewed stats and mishandling of cases.
  • Research on domestic violence in the US and Canada shows that males report victimization at similar or higher rates than females, but the prevailing mode of thought in Canada still focuses primarily on female victims.
  • The stats on domestic violence are skewed and do not show gender parity in non-ideological based research.
  • Men are less likely to report domestic violence in Canada because the police have been trained to arrest men for domestic violence, leading to a stereotype that men are the aggressors and women are not.
  • In Oregon, a study found that in cases of domestic violence, when police were called, 81% of the time both the male and female were arrested.
  • In dual arrest states, police rely on arrest data for domestic violence cases, leading to a cycle of misinformation and mishandling of situations.
  • Domestic violence is intergenerational and not gendered, with empirical studies showing a learned aspect to it and a connection to issues of attachment and insecure attachment.
• 19:39 🔑 Intergenerational trauma and the need for non-gendered treatment of domestic violence, legislation challenges, and the importance of evaluating both parents in custody cases.
  • Intergenerational trauma and the need for better communication and parenting methods to break the cycle of domestic violence.
  • Domestic violence should not be seen as gendered, as treating both men and women for domestic violence and addressing the psychological causes can improve treatment outcomes.
  • Male-perpetrated domestic violence legislation was mandated in the U.S., but attempts to reason with politicians were unsuccessful, leading to the speaker's retirement, while acknowledging the ongoing efforts of others.
  • Domestic violence and child abuse are not as closely linked as commonly believed, and it is important to evaluate both parents for abuse potential in custody cases.
  • Couples therapy is more effective than individual therapy in cases of domestic violence where both parties have anger and abuse issues.
  • Dr. Dutton is open to answering questions from the audience.
• 25:31 📚 Dr. Donald Dutton criticizes Ellen Pence's book, emphasizes the need for legal support in cases of parental alienation, and highlights the resistance to evidence-based approaches in addressing domestic violence in Canada.
  • The book "Education Groups for Men Who Batter" by Ellen Pence was written without practical experience and is considered ridiculous by Dr. Donald Dutton.
  • Dr. Dutton suggests that parents who are targets of parental alienation should get a good lawyer to fight and counter the charges, as it is a complex and terrible situation.
  • Support and education are important in addressing domestic violence, but there is resistance to evidence-based approaches in Canada, which is driven by a cult-like mentality.
  • The system contributes to parental alienation by putting children in the middle of adversarial situations, and educating children about abuse may offer hope for the future.
  • There has been little improvement in recognizing mutual domestic violence in Canada, with the media and political level still perpetuating the same old gender-based misconceptions.
• 31:35 🔑 The media and government have biases towards men as victims of domestic violence, with a lack of awareness and compassion for abused children, and financial interests influencing activism.
  • The media and politicians often misrepresent domestic violence, and there are issues within the government regarding this.
  • There is an underlying bias in the justice system and government towards men as victims of domestic violence, and there is a lack of education and awareness about the issue.
  • There is little opposition within the political system to creating a good working environment with a good pension.
  • The speaker discusses the financial interests of special interest groups in denying parental alienation and perpetuating gendered violence.
  • Gendered violence and parental alienation are not gendered issues, and there is a lack of awareness and compassion for abused children, with women being the primary perpetrators of child murder and abuse.
  • The speaker discusses the financial motivations behind domestic violence activism and the difficulty in getting their opinion published.
• 37:06 🔍 Domestic violence is non-gendered, with women more likely to perpetuate violence, and it is important to provide help to those who need it.
  • Women are more likely to perpetuate violence in the home, but there is a fear of child protection agencies getting involved, and children are often not believed or continue to love and cover for their abuser.
  • Research on domestic violence has already been done and there are resources available for non-ideological evidence-based research, but implementation is hindered by special interest groups.
  • The Partner Abuse State of Knowledge Project found that men were more likely to report past year victimization, while women were more likely to report lifetime victimization, with some doubt about the reliability of lifetime memory.
  • As women's socioeconomic power increases, abuse committed against women decreases, but abuse committed by women increases, and it is not gender but gender times power that contributes to the main rates of incidents of perpetration.
  • Domestic violence is non-gendered and affects everyone, and it is important to provide help to those who need it.
• 42:37 🔑 Shared parenting is best for children, challenges faced by men in family court, need for open-mindedness in domestic violence cases, and the impact of wokeism on feminism were discussed by Dr. Dutton.
  • Shared parenting is in the best interest of children, and the opposition to it is based on biased principles rather than financial motives.
  • The speaker discusses the challenges faced by men in family court and the role of money in the legal system, as well as the need for access to justice and legislative change.
  • There is a need for more open-mindedness and resources in the judicial system regarding domestic violence cases.
  • Despite the lack of change in the Duluth model, there is hope in the increasing vocalization of people speaking up against domestic violence.
  • The speaker discusses the impact of wokeism on feminism and the scientific model, expressing distrust of political views and comparing wokeism to a religious fervor.
  • Dr. Dutton discussed rethinking domestic violence and the possibility of a follow-up conversation in the future.

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