Setting clear standards, rather than expectations, is the key to raising the bar in dating and avoiding misunderstandings
Questions to inspire discussion
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What is the difference between expectations and standards in dating?
—The difference is that expectations are silent and unspoken, while standards are clear and communicated.
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Why are men no longer willing to participate in simping?
—Men are tired of being expected to make superficial comments on women's looks and are seeking more meaningful connections.
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How do dating apps provide a safe way for signaling interest?
—Dating apps allow both men and women to signal interest before starting a conversation, preventing potential discomfort or misunderstandings.
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Why are men between 20 and 30 not interested in dating?
—Men in this age group may be hesitant to invest in extravagant first dates and are looking for more meaningful connections.
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Why do women complain about men not providing extravagant first dates?
—Women may have silent expectations of men to provide extravagant first dates, but clear communication and understanding can help avoid misunderstandings.
Key Insights
- 🎯 Expectations are not the way to raise the bar in dating, it's actually through standards, which are non-negotiable.
- 🔥 Women don't connect with attention based solely on physical appearance, it's not genuine interaction.
- 💬 The attention women get from half-naked photos on Instagram skews their opinion of men, leading them to believe that looks alone will get them anything.
- 💰 Men are not interested in extravagant first dates and women are upset about it.
- 😬 "It seems like a ridiculous idea to plan something really extravagant and be stuck with somebody that maybe you're not vibing with very well."
- 🥁 Men are no longer expected to mind read, even in the early stages of dating.
- 🚫 Expecting a man to mind read before the first date is ridiculous and sets unrealistic standards for the relationship.
- 💭 Assuming that a man should just know your expectations without clear communication can lead to misunderstandings and unmet expectations.
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Clips
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00:00 🚫 Men are no longer willing to participate in simping and women are upset about it.
- Women have silent expectations of men in the early dating stages, but it's better to have standards instead.
- Men are no longer willing to participate in simping and women are upset about it.
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02:00 🚫 Men are tired of being expected to make simp comments on women's looks, and women are upset about it.
- Men participating in simping behavior by leaving superficial comments on women's photos will not help them in the dating stage, as women do not connect with or appreciate this kind of attention.
- Men are tired of being expected to make simp comments on women's looks, and women are upset about it.
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03:53 🚫 Men are tired of women seeking attention through revealing photos and women are upset about men not approaching them as often, blaming dating apps for the decline.
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05:10 🚹 Men are not interested in dating, women complain about men not providing extravagant first dates, and dating apps provide a safe way for both men and women to signal their interest.
- Dating apps provide a safe way for both men and women to signal their interest in each other before starting a conversation, as men may be labeled as creeps if they approach women who are not interested, and women are often terrible at giving clear signs of interest.
- Men between 20 and 30 are not interested in dating, women complain about men not providing extravagant first dates, and men are willing to invest in a date if it's going well.
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07:14 💡 Men are done with the pressure of planning extravagant dates and rushing into marriage, while women are upset about it.
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08:32 🚫 Men are no longer expected to mind read women, and they question women's loyalty and dedication in tough times due to the culture today.
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09:47 🚫 Woman expected man to pick her up for a date without communicating it, leading to frustration and resentment in relationships.
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11:28 🚹 Communicate expectations with men preemptively to avoid misunderstandings and assumptions.
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Duration: 0:12:41
Publication Date: 2024-04-19T12:10:13Z
WatchUrl: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gpr4eLg2_8w
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