Mastering the Sandwich Strategy: Keeping Your Cool with Women

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Mastering the Sandwich Strategy: Keeping Your Cool with Women

Men can use emotional survival tactics to handle disrespectful attacks from women without escalating the situation by reflecting back their emotions and adding "I feel" to their statements

 

Questions to inspire discussion 

  • How can men handle disrespectful attacks from women without escalating the situation?

    Men can use emotional survival tactics by reflecting back the emotions and statements of the woman, which can deescalate emotionally charged situations and keep the interaction calm.

  • Why is it important for men to add "I feel" to women's positive emotions?

    Adding "I feel" to women's positive emotions can help de-escalate exchanges and show empathy, which is important for maintaining a respectful and calm interaction.

  • How can reflecting on emotions help de-escalate exchanges?

    Reflecting on emotions can help de-escalate exchanges by allowing men to assess the reality and significance of the woman's emotional statements, which can lead to a more rational and calm interaction.

  • What is the benefit of mentally adding words to a woman's emotional statements?

    Mentally adding words to a woman's emotional statements can help men assess the reality and significance of the claim, which can lead to a more rational and calm interaction.

  • What tactic can men use to assess the reality and significance of a woman's emotional claim?

    Men can use the tactic of mentally adding words to the beginning and end of a woman's emotional statements to help assess the reality and significance of the claim, which can lead to a more rational and calm interaction.

Key Insights

  • 🎯 "One of the obvious reasons why people hurt the ones they love is that they have access to their vulnerabilities."
  • 😬 Surrendering emotional control in anger can lead to saying and doing things that may have long-lasting consequences.
  • 🗣️ "By adding these words, it's easier to remember that you're not actually dealing with a personal attack but a confession of her emotional state."
  • 😡 Remember that her uncomfortable moment is a confession of her emotional state and a true reflection of her feelings, so don't get bent out of shape in that moment.
  • 🍞 The "sandwich strategy" in communication with women involves mentally appending the words "right now" to the end of whatever she says, acknowledging the temporary nature of emotions.
  • 💡 When people feel heard, they tend to get quieter and more reasonable, making accurate reflection an effective strategy in diffusing conflicts.
  • 📝 Reflecting on emotions is not approval or commitment, it's just communicating and can help de-escalate exchanges with women.

 

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Clips 

  • 00:00 👨‍⚕️ Use emotional survival tactic to handle disrespectful attacks from women without escalating the situation.
    • 01:23 🥪 Don't get defensive when dealing with an angry woman, as it only validates her perspective and makes the situation worse.
      • 02:54 🥪 Men need to learn to keep their cool with women by mentally creating a verbal sandwich around her words, adding something to the beginning and end of what she says to prevent triggering aggression.
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          • 04:59 🥪 Always mentally add "I feel" to the beginning of a woman's statements to understand her emotional reality and communicate effectively.
            • 06:28 🥪 Let her feel whatever she wants, it's not your responsibility.
              • 07:43 🥪 Append "I feel" and "right now" to what she says to remember that emotions are temporary and not a permanent reality.
                • 08:52 👩 Reflecting back a woman's emotions can de-escalate situations and keep interactions calm, adding "I feel" to women's positive emotions is important, and mentally adding words to assess the reality and significance of their claims can help.
                  • Reflecting back the emotions and statements of a woman can de-escalate emotionally charged situations and keep the interaction calm.
                  • Reflecting on emotions can help de-escalate exchanges, and it's important for men to add "I feel" to women's positive emotions.
                  • Mentally adding words to the beginning and end of a woman's emotional statements can help you assess the reality and significance of the claim.

                 

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