Tinder and other dating apps are reshaping human relationships, leading to a shift towards polygamy, increased selectivity in mate choice, and potential negative impacts on meaningful connections and social stability
Questions to inspire discussion
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What impact do dating apps have on human relationships?
—Dating apps like Tinder are reshaping human relationships, leading to a shift towards polygamy, increased selectivity in mate choice, and potential negative impacts on meaningful connections and social stability.
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Who tends to be more successful on Tinder?
—Research has shown that people high in the dark triad tend to be more successful and accumulate more partners on Tinder.
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What group is more likely to report negative experiences on dating apps?
—Those who are not college graduates, especially women, are more likely to report negative experiences on dating apps.
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How are single mothers viewed in the dating world?
—Single mothers are seen as easier targets for men and have a lower market value in the dating world due to the complexity of initiating a relationship with a woman who has a child.
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What is the impact of low status on dating apps?
—Low status confers vulnerability, and Tinder is seen as a technology that starts fires, not just sexually.
Key insights
- 🚀 Tinder is a transformative technology that produces hyper successful predatory males and reduces rejection, radically underestimating its potency in reshaping human relationships.
- 💑 Women mate across and up success hierarchies, looking for someone who is competent and generous to equalize the economic disparity caused by sex and pregnancy.
- 💰 A good-looking guy accumulated more than 20,000 matches on Tinder, showing that women are highly selective in their choices on the app.
- 💔 Tinder is transforming monogamy into polygamy, leading to a distribution where a minority of men get all the sexual opportunity, creating social instability.
- 🤔 Is technology and dating apps cultivating psychopathy in young people by removing the friction from breaking up with someone?
- 🔥 Using people as a means to an end in relationships establishes a pattern of shallow interaction and prevents meaningful connections.
- 📉 Research shows that individuals high on the dark triad tend to be more successful and accumulate more partners, raising questions about the impact of these individuals on dating app interactions.
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Timestamped Summary
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00:00 🔥 Tinder is a powerful tool that creates successful men and reduces rejection, with research showing that women only like 4% of male profiles while men like over 60% of female profiles.
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00:53 🔑 Women seek partners who are older, successful, and generous to equalize the economic disparity caused by the risks of sex and pregnancy.
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02:09 🔍 Women are more selective in their mating than men, as reflected in their behavior on Tinder where they select only 4% of men, with successful men receiving perks and bonuses from the app.
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03:38 🔥 Men who have women throwing themselves at them are not the typical male experience, as the typical male experience is all rejection.
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04:35 🔥 Tinder is reshaping human relationships by transforming monogamy into polygamy, leading to a Pareto distribution of sexual opportunity and making it easier to cheat outside of your social circle.
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05:38 🔥 Ghosting and discreet rendezvous are becoming more common due to dating apps, potentially cultivating psychopathic behavior in young people.
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06:46 🔥 Using Tinder to easily move on to the next conquest can lead to establishing a pattern of shallow interactions and hinder the development of meaningful relationships.
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07:47 🔥 Tinder reshapes human relationships by favoring those high in the dark triad, disadvantaging single mothers, and exposing vulnerability in low status individuals.
- Research has shown that people high in the dark triad tend to be more successful and accumulate more partners on Tinder, and those who are not college graduates, especially women, are more likely to report negative experiences on dating apps.
- Single mothers are seen as easier targets for men and have a lower market value in the dating world due to the complexity of initiating a relationship with a woman who has a child.
- Low status confers vulnerability, and Tinder is seen as a technology that starts fires, not just sexually.
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